Should parents stop children throwing toys?

Source: Peng Zhihua, Registered Educational Psychologist

Parents will throw, throw, throw when children in toddler stage pick up toys! In fact, this is a normal developmental process, especially from 1 to 2 years old. Because when you pick up a toy and throw it, the object falls down, so it is easier to see the cause and effect relationship.

Pick it up, let it go, there will be sounds and movements. The action means that after he does the action, the object will fall down, which is very fun. But as you grow older, you should stop throwing toys. Parents should not stop him, saying that it is wrong for him to throw toys again. Because he may not know what is right and wrong, but he finds it fun. Parents can properly let him continue throwing, set some rules, and let him throw into some appropriate ranges. It doesn’t matter even if you don’t match the color, at least put it back into the appropriate range.

Parents can also let him throw the ball, and then he can throw it to some farther places. You can use some dishes or different boxes around the house, and let him throw them in like storing toys. Of course, slowly ask him to be less forceful. Another thing is very important. Parents, remember to pay attention to if you tell him not to throw when he throws, it will strengthen his desire to throw. Because this sentence is not positive enough, parents should remember that when he throws the toy, don’t say: “Don’t throw the toy anymore”, you can say: “Let’s try to put it down slowly, put it here, and use a little force.”

On the one hand, we provide some opportunities for him to throw properly in the environment, and at the same time, the words we speak must positively guide what he should do, so that he has the opportunity to improve his behavior.