In fact, I once saw a junior high school student who was obsessed with playing the field game “Chicken Eater”. He had to pick up some supplies on the ground from time to time, but these supplies sometimes had traps that would explode. What was the reason for his admission to the hospital?
It’s that he can’t hold things with his hands, he can bump them, he gets nervous. Because as long as he picks things with his fingers, he will be very scared. So if you find a problem now, you can deal with it earlier to avoid the above situation.
Parents have more experience, wisdom and resources than children. You can’t lose. Your only weakness is that you love him too much. You will be soft-hearted. You must know that it is easy to give but difficult to take. Therefore, parents should first negotiate a reasonable and feasible plan with the children. For example, they can play for 30 minutes a day, but they must first complete their homework.
As for controlling children, you must first choose a suitable battlefield, not in a public place, the most suitable place is at home. Even if you receive it, you should try to avoid physical contact, such as grabbing and pulling out wires, you should try to avoid it, because it will hurt feelings. Parents should first warn him many times with a gentle and positive tone. If he still refuses to hand it over, you have to remind the child of the consequences he has agreed to, and you will definitely receive it when he sleeps in the end. But it is necessary to insist on firmly implementing the consequences, and there is no room for negotiation. These are relatively negative strategies.

The light and sound of the phone will always attract children to play non-stop. Some children can’t leave their mobile phones at any time, whether it’s eating, riding a car or going to school. How can parents solve this problem?
First of all, everyone must understand that children’s reactions are inevitable. Mobile phones can provide a lot of sensory stimulation, and there is no gameover. They can start again, have a sense of success, and can stay away from the pressure and frustration of parents and schools. They are simply invincible. Physiologically speaking, playing video games will cause the brain to release a large amount of dopamine, exciting and stimulating the prefrontal cortex, and gradually lose self-control, so many adults cannot control it, let alone children?
Children will also be attracted unconsciously, causing the nightmare of most parents in Hong Kong. I have seen many parents and children, are caught in an endless struggle and frustration. If it is not controlled, it will not only affect children’s learning, but more seriously, it will affect their concentration, brain development, health and eye diseases. Therefore, mobile phone addiction will also be listed as one of the psychological addiction diseases like alcohol and drugs.
What is more positive is to provide the child with opportunities that can attract him to leave the phone, such as outdoor activities with the child, providing a family environment, giving the child choices, a sense of success, and a chance to start again, building his self-confidence and ability.
In the end, many parents worry that other children have mobile phones, and if their own don’t, they worry that their children will compare
It can even cause low self-esteem, and some worry that the child will learn slower than others, which may affect his development in the future. Therefore, I know that in reality it is impossible not to give children access to mobile phones, so I suggest that the younger they are, the more they should avoid using mobile phones, and try to delay their entry into this world as much as possible.
At the same time, parents should also seize the opportunity to handle it carefully and not take it lightly. As long as the parents are creative enough, interact and accompany the children more, and persist enough, they can change the children.

Source: Family Dynamics Marriage and Family Therapist, Hypnotherapist Siming Huang